Reframe a Relationship Conflict From Your Own Position

In any conflict, each person has a story about what is happening and why. Your story feels accurate because it is yours, but it is built on assumptions about the other person's motives that you have not tested. This makes those assumptions visible, offers an alternative story that would make the other person's position coherent, and identifies the question that would tell you which is closer to the truth.

I am in a conflict with {RELATIONSHIP_TYPE} about {CONFLICT_TOPIC}. My position is: {MY_POSITION}. Their position as I understand it: {THEIR_POSITION}.

Help me reframe this conflict:
1. The story I am telling: what assumptions about the other person's motives and values my position implies, stated as a story I am telling myself
2. An alternative story: a plausible alternative account of the other person's motives that would make their position make sense to them
3. What we might actually agree on: the underlying need or value that both positions might be trying to serve, even if differently
4. A question I could ask: a single question I could ask the other person that would test whether my story or the alternative is closer to the truth

Do not tell me who is right. Help me see past my own framing.