Draft A Firm But Polite Reply To A Difficult Relative

The message sits there unanswered for three days because every draft in your head sounds either too harsh or like you are apologising for existing. This writes two versions, one warmer and one firmer, so you can send something that holds the line without becoming the next group chat topic.

<context>
A relative has sent you a message that is {DESCRIPTION_OF_MESSAGE}, and you need to reply in a way that sets a boundary without starting a family war.
</context>

<task>
**Draft a reply that:**
1. Acknowledges their point without agreeing to it
2. States your position or boundary in one clear sentence
3. Closes the door on further argument without being cold
4. Offers a version that is warmer and a version that is more distant, so you can pick the tone
</task>

<output_format>
- Two draft replies, each under 100 words
- One-line note on which situations suit which version
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