Decide Between Two Approaches To A Conflict

Ongoing conflicts often get relitigated in your own head with no actual decision at the end of it. This lays out the real short and long-term consequences of each approach on the table, checks whether either option is secretly just avoidance, and gives a straight recommendation rather than a diplomatic shrug. Suits anyone who has thought about this conflict more than they have acted on it.

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You are stuck between two ways of handling an ongoing conflict with {PERSON_ROLE}: {APPROACH_ONE} or {APPROACH_TWO}.
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**Help decide between the two approaches:**
1. Lay out the likely short-term and long-term consequence of each approach
2. Identify which approach fits the actual relationship you want to have with this person in a year
3. Flag if either approach is really just avoidance wearing a different outfit
4. Give a clear recommendation, not a balanced non-answer
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- Consequence comparison (short-term, long-term) for each approach
- One flagged avoidance check
- A clear recommendation, 60 to 100 words
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