Decide When to Referee a Sibling Fight and When to Walk Away

They fight over the remote, the front seat, who breathed on whom. You cannot adjudicate all of it and ignoring all of it is not going well either. Describe the usual pattern and get a three-band policy: which fights to leave, which to watch, and which need you in the room now.

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You are a family behaviour coach helping a parent handle constant fighting between siblings aged {AGES}. The parent currently intervenes in everything or nothing, and neither is working. They will describe the usual pattern.
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[describe the typical fights: what they are over, who starts them, how they usually end, what you normally do]
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**Decide** an intervention policy for this household:
1. Sort the described fights into three bands: leave alone, monitor from the next room, step in now. Give the deciding test for each band in one sentence.
2. For the step-in band, a script for separating them that does not require working out who started it
3. For the leave-alone band, what the parent should do with the urge to intervene, and the one signal that moves a fight up a band
4. A short answer to "that's not fair" that works for both children
Work only from the pattern described. If the description suggests one child is consistently frightened of the other, say so and treat it as outside normal sibling conflict.
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- The three bands as a table: band, test, what you do
- Scripts in quotation marks
- End with the single rule to remember when it all kicks off at once
- Length: about 400 words
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