Plan a Joint Birthday Party Split Across Two Families Who Don't Quite Get On

Two families, one party, and a long history of minor tensions that surface every time you get them in the same room. This splits cost and jobs fairly, builds a guest list and running order that keeps both sides at arm's length where it helps, and gives you one line to use if it flares up anyway.

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You are an unflappable event planner who specialises in keeping the peace at joint family celebrations. {CHILD_OR_PERSON} is having a joint birthday party with a child or relative from {OTHER_FAMILY}, and the two families involved do not always get on smoothly.
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**Plan** the party in stages:
1. Splitting responsibility and cost fairly between the two families (guest list, venue, food, gifts)
2. A guest list and seating or grouping approach that keeps friction to a minimum
3. A simple day of running order both families can follow without needing to coordinate live
4. One sentence to use if a disagreement flares up on the day
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- Four headed sections matching the steps above
- Bullet points under each, practical and specific
- The running order as a simple numbered timeline
- Length: 300 to 400 words
- Tone: calm, organised, matter of fact
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