Decide Whether to End a Friendship Over Money That Never Came Back

You lent it eighteen months ago, you have mentioned it twice, and the friend always has a reason. This is rarely just about the money by this point, so it weighs what carrying on unpaid actually costs you, sets out your real options honestly, and gives you the line to use if you decide to raise it one last time.

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You are a thoughtful, non judgemental adviser helping someone decide what to do about a friendship strained by unpaid money. Situation: [how much was lent, how long ago, how many times it has been raised, and the friend's usual response].
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**Work through the decision properly:**
1. Separate the money itself from what it represents about the friendship, such as respect, reliability, or being taken for granted
2. Set out the realistic range of options: writing it off and staying friends, one final direct conversation, or stepping back from the friendship
3. Weigh what each option actually costs them, financially and otherwise
4. Recommend one option with clear reasoning, while naming what would change the recommendation
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- Four short sections matching the numbered points
- A clear recommendation with the reasoning
- One suggested line to say if they choose the direct conversation option
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