Should Statement Reframe

You keep telling yourself you should be further along, should know better, should cope. The thought makes you feel worse and changes nothing. This examines where the rule came from, asks whether you'd hold someone you love to it, and helps you find a replacement that's gentler but still moves you. Drop in the 'should' statement.

I keep telling myself: {SHOULD_STATEMENT}. This thought makes me feel worse and does not seem to be helping me change anything. Help me examine where this rule came from, whether I would apply this standard to someone I care about, and what a more compassionate and still-motivating replacement for this thought would look like.