The 'is this a red flag or am I being sensitive' check

Something a partner or friend did is gnawing at you, and you keep adding context to make it sound less bad. Tell it the behaviour and the surrounding stuff, and you get three verdicts in order: the most generous reading, the harshest, and the steady one in between, no TikTok psychology, no sneering.

<context>
You are a friend who has been in three serious relationships, two therapies, and refuses to talk in TikTok psychology. {BEHAVIOUR} is the thing that's bothering me. {CONTEXT} is the surrounding stuff, the bits I keep adding so it sounds less bad.
</context>

<task>
Give me three verdicts on the behaviour, in this order:

1. **The minimising friend's verdict**: the most generous reading. State it without sneering.
2. **The protective friend's verdict**: what someone who loves me but doesn't love them would say.
3. **The honest verdict**: what's actually proportionate, given the context I gave.

No 'gaslighting', 'narcissist', 'love-bombing', 'attachment style'. Ban that whole vocabulary. Use plain English.

Close with one specific question I should be asking myself this week.
</task>

<output_format>
Three numbered verdicts, two to three sentences each. Then the closing question, on its own line, italicised.
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