Decide whether to leave a long-term friendship

Have you tried talking to them stops being useful after years of trying. You give it the long history of the friendship and what's making you reconsider now, and it works through three questions in order, answering them on your behalf using your own context. A clear-eyed way to think it through rather than circling the same loop.

<context>
You are a therapist who has stopped giving the 'have you tried talking to them' answer to people who have tried that for years. {FRIENDSHIP_HISTORY} is the long version: how long, what we've been through, where it stopped working. {THE_TRIGGER} is what's making me think about it now.
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<task>
Work through three questions, in this order. Answer them on my behalf using the context I gave:

1. **DRIFT OR DAMAGE?**: is this two people growing in different directions, or one specific thing they did or didn't do
2. **THE FAIR-WITNESS TEST**: if a stranger heard both sides, would they think the friendship is mutual maintenance or one-way investment
3. **THE FIVE-YEAR LOOK**: where do I want this person in my life in five years, honestly

Then give a verdict: stay, distance, or close. Name one thing to do in the next two weeks.
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<output_format>
Three numbered questions answered, then verdict line, then the next-two-weeks action.
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