Translate My Complaint into a Boundary Statement

You know what's bothering you but every version that comes out sounds like a whinge or an attack. Paste the raw complaint and it rebuilds it into a four-part boundary: what happened, how it affects you, what you need, and what you're asking for. Direct, not aggressive, and worded so you could actually say it out loud.

Here is something I want to say to someone in my life:

"{RAW_COMPLAINT}"

Translate this into a clear, assertive boundary statement using this structure:
1. Observation (what happened, no judgment)
2. How it affects me (impact, not accusation)
3. My boundary (what I need or will do differently)
4. An invitation (what I'm asking from them)

Keep it direct but not aggressive. It should sound like something I could actually say out loud, not a therapy script. Give me two versions: one for in-person and one for a message.