Check Whether an Online Date Red Flag Is Actually a Red Flag

Something happened on the date and you are not sure if you are overreacting or not reacting enough. This gives you a plain read of what the behaviour might mean, when to pay attention and when not to, and what you can do or say to get more information before deciding. No coaching, no reassurance.

I went on a date with someone I met online. I noticed [describe the behaviour or thing that caught your attention]. I cannot tell if this is a genuine concern, a personality quirk I am reading too much into, or something I should act on. Give me a plain-English read of what this might mean, when it is worth paying attention to and when it is not, and what I could do or say if I want to get more information before deciding whether to see them again. Be direct; I do not need reassurance.