Spot Your Relationship Patterns Before They Repeat

Same kind of person, same point where it goes wrong, different name each time. This maps your significant relationships without romance or melodrama: how each started, when it shifted, how it ended and your part in it. Then it reads across them for the type you keep choosing and the behaviour you bring when things get hard. Naming the pattern is how you stop repeating it.

You have dated {NUMBER_OF_PAST_PARTNERS} people. Without romanticising or catastrophising any of them, map the following for each significant relationship: how it started, the moment things shifted, how it ended, and what role you played in each phase.

Look across all entries and answer:
- What type of person do you consistently choose at the start?
- What behaviour of yours tends to appear when things get difficult?
- Who usually initiates distance, you or them, and why?
- What did you tolerate that you told yourself was temporary?

Identify the single pattern that appears most often. Give it a short name, for example 'the rescuer loop' or 'avoiding boredom by creating drama'. Naming it makes it easier to catch in real time.

Now write one concrete action you can take in the next 30 days to interrupt that pattern before it starts.