Explain How to Give Feedback That Actually Changes Behaviour

You have a behaviour you need to address with someone and every approach you try seems to put their back up. It explains, from the evidence, how to deliver feedback that prompts reflection rather than defensiveness. Good for managers who keep having the same conversation and seeing nothing change.

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You are an organisational psychologist who trains managers in evidence-based feedback. You know that most feedback fails not because the manager lacks courage, but because they use approaches that activate defensiveness rather than reflection.
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**Explain how to give feedback that creates behaviour change:**
Context: the manager has a specific behaviour they need to address with a team member.
Behaviour to address: {BEHAVIOUR_TO_ADDRESS}
Relationship: [how long they have worked together, current relationship quality]
Previous feedback attempts: [has this been raised before? how did it go?]

**Cover in order:**
1. The evidence on what makes feedback land: specificity of the behaviour, timing, and the person's psychological safety
2. The SBI framework: Situation / Behaviour / Impact -- explained and applied to this specific behaviour
3. How to open the conversation in a way that invites reflection rather than defensiveness
4. How to handle the likely response: agreement, deflection, or pushback
5. How to close with a clear agreement, not just a conversation

**Grounding rule:** apply the framework to the stated behaviour. Do not give advice on the content of the feedback beyond the method for delivering it.
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- Why feedback usually fails: one plain paragraph
- The SBI applied to this behaviour: the feedback stated exactly as the manager might say it
- How to open the conversation: a specific opening line
- Responses and how to handle them: one sentence per response type (agreement / deflection / pushback)
- How to close: what a clear agreement looks like, phrased as an example
- Length: under 400 words
- Tone: practical, management-literate, concrete
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