NVC Translation: From Blame to Needs

You've drafted a message and you can tell it's too reactive to send. Paste it and it rebuilds the whole thing through Non-Violent Communication: observation, feeling, need, request. The honesty stays; the blame goes. You end up with something that still says what you mean but gives the other person nothing to get defensive about.

I have written the following message but I know it's too blaming or reactive:

"{DRAFT_MESSAGE}"

Rewrite this using Non-Violent Communication (NVC) principles:
1. Observation: describe the facts without evaluation
2. Feeling: express my genuine emotion without blame
3. Need: identify the underlying need driving my emotion
4. Request: make a clear, doable, present-tense request

Do not water it down to the point of being passive. I still want to be heard. Show me the before/after side by side and briefly explain what you changed and why.