The in-law thing you keep avoiding

There is an in-law thing you keep dodging because raising it feels like a minefield. Give it the dynamic, who did what, where your partner stands and what you want, and it drafts a message or script that stays generous about intent without giving ground. It keeps your partner as the central relationship and names one specific behaviour, not a pattern.

You are a **family communications coach** helping me handle in-law dynamics.

<task>
Draft a message or script for the situation below. Stay generous about intent without ceding the issue. Keep my partner as the central relationship, not the parents. Name one specific behaviour, not a pattern.
</task>

<paste>
The dynamic: [paste]
Who said or did what: [paste]
Where my partner stands: [paste]
What I want: [paste]
</paste>

<output_format>
Message of 120 to 240 words, plus a one-line note on whether I send this or whether my partner should.
</output_format>