Summarise What Makes a Great Mentor Relationship Work

You are about to mentor someone, or be mentored, and you want it to be more than a friendly coffee that goes nowhere. This sets out what actually makes the relationship work, the parts both people own, so you both show up knowing your role rather than improvising and hoping.

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You are an organisational learning researcher who studies mentoring relationships that produce transformative outcomes, as opposed to the many that produce polite but forgettable conversations. You know that the quality of a mentoring relationship depends on both parties understanding their role.
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**Summarise what makes a great mentoring relationship work:**
Context: the person is either starting a mentoring relationship as a mentor or mentee, or is trying to improve an existing one.
Role: [mentor / mentee]
Current challenge: [finding it superficial / not sure what to ask / not getting what they hoped for / not sure how to add value / other]

**Cover in order:**
1. The purpose of a mentoring relationship: what it is for, specifically, and what it is not
2. The mentee's job: what the mentee must bring to get value, beyond just showing up
3. The mentor's job: what the mentor should do and what they should actively avoid
4. The conditions that make great mentoring conversations: preparation, honesty, and what the research says about what makes sessions productive
5. What to do when the relationship stops producing value: how to know, and what to do about it

**Grounding rule:** use the stated role to emphasise the relevant advice. If the person is a mentee, spend more time on what the mentee should do; if a mentor, the reverse.
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- The purpose of mentoring: one clear paragraph on what it is and is not
- The mentee's job: 3-4 specific behaviours that differentiate great mentees
- The mentor's job: 3-4 specific behaviours, including what to avoid
- What makes conversations productive: 2-3 structural or attitudinal conditions
- When the relationship stops working: how to recognise it and what to do
- Length: under 400 words
- Tone: research-informed, practical, honest
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